Share Your Family Stories

Kids that know a lot about their family stories do better when they face challenges. Dr. Duke and Dr. Fivsush asked kids questions like: Do you know where your parents met? Do you know something really terrible that happened in your family? Do you know the story of your birth?

After conducting their study, they concluded that the more kids know about their family story the stronger their sense of control over their lives. Also the higher their self-esteem.

The Value of Family Stories

Some family stories build child esteem better than others. Resist the urge to only tell story where the family does well or only tell stories of struggle. The best theme for family stories shows ups and downs. Stories that show the family sometimes suffers setbacks and sometimes achieves triumphs.  Most importantly, the family sticks together through it all.

Stories that share how the family sometimes suffers setbacks and sometimes achieve triumphs build emotional strength. The most important part of each story centers on the family sticking together through it all.

Children find comfort in knowing they are part of something bigger. They find strength in belonging to a family that has traditions and survival skills that help manage life’s struggles.

These children also develop a more realistic understanding of life’s ups and down. Facing setbacks might be easier for them. Perhaps they are better equipped to see failure as a temporary state that can be overcome. And so those experiences of setbacks become lessons of courage.

Sharing Your Family Stories

Be glad to know family stories of difficult times hold just as much importance as success stories. Given this research you might want to think about what family themes you want to emphasize and share with your children.

Here are a few suggestions:

-Elaborate your stories to demonstrate how family members helped one another.

-Make it interactive and ask your children what they would have done in a similar situation.

-Talk about the fun celebrations as well as sad occasions.

-Create a family story album with pictures to accompany the stories.

For more information on helping your children express their emotions, you can pick up a copy of Dr. Peggy Kruger Tietz’s book, Yell and Shout, Cry and Pout: A Kid’s Guide to Feelings.

Dr. Peggy Kruger Tietz is a licensed psychologist and social worker.  Her Ph.D. is in developmental psychology from Bryn Mawr College.

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Avoid Smartphone Monitors for Vital Signs

Medical research has not proven that new smartphone applications to track babies’ vital signs work.
Experts understand the anxiety of new parents around newborn issues like SIDS. Yet they warn against these apps linked to sensors in babies’ socks, onesies, leg bands and diaper clips. They aren’t tested or approved for U.S. sale like medical devices.
New smartphone-integrated monitors for vital signs currently available in the U.S. or expected to debut soon include Baby Vida, MonBaby, Owlet, Snuza Pico and Sproutling.
Instead, parents should rely on prevention efforts proven to work. These efforts include breastfeeding and sleeping in the same room with their babies.
Babies should sleep in the same bedroom as their parents – but not in the same bed – for at least six months to cut the risk of sleep-related deaths. The safest spot for infant sleep is on a firm surface such as a crib or bassinet without any soft bedding, bumpers or pillows.
SOURCE: bit.ly/2kpM40I JAMA

Updated Peanut Allergies Guidance

The National Institute of Allergy and Infectious Diseases has issued updated guidance, endorsed by the American Academy of Pediatrics, regarding the peanut allergies in infants.

This guidance says that babies with severe eczema, egg allergy or both should first receive pureed or finger foods with peanuts at ages 4 months to 6 months after prior allergy testing and intake of other solid foods.

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avoid peanut allergies in infants by following these guidelines

While those with mild to moderate eczema should be exposed to peanuts at around age 6 months.

Those without eczema or food allergies can have peanut-containing foods “freely.”

Implementation of the guidelines, published in the Journal of Allergy and Clinical Immunology and five other journals, may significantly lower pediatric food allergies, said NIAID Director Dr. Anthony Fauci.

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