What I wish I knew before I had my baby
I wish I would have known that hospital births were not the only option and that the
midwifery model is much more humane and caring. I also wish I would have had more confidence in my body’s ability to birth my child.
I don’t know where the recommendation that “if you are breastfeeding you need a pump” came from. There is no need to buy a pump unless you’re returning to work or school. Even if a baby comes prematurely, the retail electric pumps won’t be effective in establishing a milk supply. They are only good after the supply has been established by the baby or, in the case of prematurity, a hospital grade breast-pump. If you want to pump an occasional bottle for your husband to feed the baby and take a break, a manual pump is good enough. Your hands can also do the same or even a better job than a manual pump. If you are a staying home mom, but have to go out of town or something of that nature, there is always the option of renting a hospital grade breast pump from any rental station $40 plus dollars for a week and you’re good to go. You will also need to get the kit for the pump, but usually those kits can become manual pumps or include a manual pump.
- Baby clothes. For the first 2 to 3 months, my baby was swaddled and held by me, no time or opportunity to show off the clothes. She was mainly in shirts, diapers and blankets.
- The whole bedding set: bumper, comforter, etc. not recommended due to SIDS risk. The crib was a waste of money, she still sleeps with us (we never intended that, it just happened).
- I also badly wanted a changing table, but I’m glad we didn’t get it.
- Baby powder, lotion – absolutely not necessary. Babies smell naturally wonderful.
I wish I would have known more about baby behavior. Now a few years later, I
know more than before and discovered that my baby’s cry wasn’t because I didn’t have enough breastmilk or because of a constant need to be held. She was just completing the famous fourth trimester that Dr. Harvey Karp talks about. I wish I would have read his book or watched his DVD prenatally. As a matter of fact, I just watched his DVD today with my daughter and she asked me to swaddle her. I had to find a big blanket and she laid there so peaceful and happy. It’s so incredible now that she can talk and express herself to think back to the early days and say to myself, ohhh so that was what you wanted then 🙂
In general I wish I was better prepared in terms of seeing the world from the baby’s
perspective. There will always be somebody giving you things, but the best gifts for your baby come from your inner self and the implementation of the knowledge learned prenatally.
By Saray Hill BS, IBCLC, RLC
What do you think? What do you wish you had known before your baby arrived?